15 thought provoking questions to ask your significant other

We are constantly growing and evolving. So, how do we develop, maintain, and exercise a deeper perspective and overall understanding of our significant other throughout all stages of life?

It’s simple, ask questions and (seriously) listen.

I don’t want to know just how you are. I want to know who you are”


Here’s 15 thought provoking questions (that go beyond the surface) to better understand your significant other (or someone close to you).

Note: Opening up can be vulnerable and scary. Remember to proceed without judgement, be kind, and patient.


15 Thought provoking questions

  1. What is something you struggle with internally but can’t voice?
  2. What can I do to make this week easier for you?
  3. If you could change something about your childhood, what would it be and why?
  4. If you could give your 10 year old self advice, what would it be?
  5. If you could invite anyone (alive or dead) to dinner at our home, who would it be and why?
  6. What is one non-materialistic thing you really wanted as a child yet didn’t have and why?
  7. If you could gain one ability tomorrow – what would it be and why?
  8. If our house was on fire and everyone (including our pets) were safely removed AND you had one opportunity to run back into the house to grab one materialistic thing – what would it be and why?
  9. Describe how you felt when you knew you were in love?
  10. What goes through your head when you see a homeless person asking for money?
  11. What color makes you happy and what color makes you feel sad?
  12. List 5 positive character traits of your significant other and how it makes you feel and why?
  13. If we could be in any existing movie together – what movie would it be and why?
  14. What does a perfect weekday and perfect weekend look like and why?
  15. What are 3 constructive things you’d like for me to work on in our relationship and why?

NOTE: You have to really listen here and not get offended! Remember, these questions  are intended to help you understand each other on a different level.





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